Boy George was born George Alan O’Dowd on June 14, 1961. George is an English singer, songwriter, DJ and fashion designer and best known for being lead singer of the pop band Culture Club.
I’m not going to pretend to know exactly what made George state this but this is how I can relate to the quote. When I was growing up, at 11 years old I was molested by three girls and then those girls turned and told their friends and their friends, etc, and so forth that I was a lesbian. I was bullied, I was beaten several times, my life was threatened and the worst part is that at 11 this was my first “sexual experience”. I didn’t have the time nor had I even thought about being homosexual or bisexual or straight but these girls used violence to taint my reputation and spread at a very influential age that I was gay.
I dealt with these things awfully on my own for the next four years and hadn’t told a soul about what happened to me and when I did and it came out I wish I could tell you that things got better and that my life turned around and people stopped coming after me. I still had their friends and they still were after me and they were angrier cause now the police were investigating it and there was an alternate version of what happened out there.
It took a long time for me to realize their act was of violence and had nothing to do with homosexuality, bisexuality, or anything and it was a power and control situation. But I was beaten so that is why I chose this quote. I was beaten because of a rumor that I was homosexual. I’m straight for the record but I don’t really think that matters.
What I learned from my experience were many things. First, that rumors suck. Second, homosexuals aren’t treated or weren’t treated very nicely. Thirdly, if some of the people that thought beating me were going to change me it did but not in the way that they thought. It just made me pissed and it made me wary of people and it made me think of how I wanted to be treated. How I felt I deserved to be treated and that has shaped me into how I treat others. I respect homosexuals, bisexuals, people of race, genders, political affiliations, and religious or non-religious preferences. I believe that we are human and we should all be treated as humans.
One of the first albums I had as a child growing up in the 80’s was Culture Club’s, Colour by Numbers and I have to say I still don’t hate the music and find myself singing along to the songs when I hear them on the radio. I couldn’t agree more with George with this second quote about the universe reflecting what you feel about yourself. It’s kind of a karmatic warning to be kind or do be nicer and nice things will happen to you. Or simply put if you don’t like what you see, change yourself to make it better.
I like freedom of speech, freedom of opinion and just being free to think, feel, act, dress, be what I want. I have also been known (me not George) to make jokes, off-color, or jokes that tend to be a bit taboo or a bit early after things happen. The thing is we all deal with stressors in life and I’ve had the lion’s share of them from getting molested to getting raped, to having my cats murdered by an asshole that abused me too.
Where’s my silver lining? I try at times to make jokes or see what I am recreating myself to be. So far what I am seeing is that I’m writing and I’m not sure if it’s really getting through to anyone or impacting anyone but I write and I hope that maybe it will help someone not kill themselves or not murder someone or to report their rape or animal abuse or domestic abuse, to not be afraid of the villains and to be a survivor and stand up for those that can’t stand up for themselves. To help lead them on the right paths instead of some of the ones that I decided to take. But I care about people and I do want to help people so I write. I write deeply personal and vile things that happened not for shock value but to help others and to raise awareness.